I’ll admit to you right now. Believing in yourself is tough. It really is hard. Because for once you are not asking anyone for validation. You’re not asking anyone if your decision is right or wrong, or if you should do this or that and etc..
You’re not asking your friend, your mom, your therapist, your psychic for advice. You just do it because you know deep down inside of you, you’re right. And I truly believe this is what matters most at the end of the day.
We are all born with intuition and natural confidence. Over time as we grow up, we become reluctant to listen to our inner voice, our needs, what we truly want because:
- We feel scared that we might look bad and “not right” to others,
- We feel bad because we think we owe people something therefore neglecting our needs
- We feel afraid that we might be judged because we think differently then following the crowd
- We don’t want to end up alone
- We want to conform with others and please people to make them think highly of us
But you need to believe in yourself in order to grow. That really is what becoming an adult is all about. And this is a lesson I am still learning in my 20s.
When you start to believe in yourself and act accordingly to your highest good. You demonstrate to people that your values, opinions matter as well. That you are on the same level of the playing field. But most importantly you teach people how to treat you.
If you fast forward to 20 years from now and look back at your life. I am sure you would agree that you would have wanted to believe in yourself more. Because believing in yourself far outweighs the opinions and critics of others.
Even during the most difficult times, when things aren’t going so well and you’ve got no one but yourself to depend on. Have faith and listen to your intuition. What is that voice saying? What is it that you really want? Listen to that voice that’s responding back to you.